Conflict is a part of every relationship. It is how conflict is managed and played out that leads to feelings of resentment, disconnect, and lack of intimacy. I believe the way in which we attach to our primary caregiver as a child continues on with us in our adult behaviors and romantic relationships. In this way of bonding and being with another so intimately, we bring our individual styles and when combined with our partner’s, we develop a cycle when in conflict. Left unattended, a couple’s cycle can leave one or both partners feeling alone and unloved. Couples counseling provides for the opportunities to feel heard, understood, and validated. This can take time. My hope for each couple is that they begin to draw closer and learn to be attuned to what is happening with their significant other. This can create a greater sense of security within oneself and between two people. My work focuses on the “within” and “between” to achieve this closeness and to heal from relationship ruptures.
If there has been infidelity and betrayal, a deep attachment wound has occurred. The core needs of safety and trust can be damaged and the relationship can appear doomed. My hope is to work with you to heal from that place of brokenness and grief and to help you achieve a level of intimacy not previously known. The intimacy between two people is “sacred ground” and I honor the needs waiting to be expressed and shared. If you are reading this and you have experienced infidelity, please know there can be healing. I have faith that couples can work together over time to repair what has been broken. This will require patience and effort.
It is possible to have greater harmony and deeper connection for you both. This is an open invitation to work alongside you in this journey.
“Every couple is unique. Each partner brings their own set of ingredients and together they make a soup.”