“Conflict is a part of every relationship.”
What matters is how conflict manifests and how it is managed in the context of the relationship. Conflict not repaired and left unresolved leads to feelings of resentment, disconnect, and a lack of emotional and physical intimacy.
The way in which we attached to our first caregiver as a child forms a pattern of how we relate to our adult romantic partners. In this way of bonding and being with another so intimately, we bring our relational coping strategies. When combined with our partner’s, we develop a cycle in conflict. Left unattended, a couple’s cycle can leave one or both partners feeling neglected, unlovable, and/or alone.
Couples counseling provides the safe space for each partner to feel heard, understood, and respected. I work with couples to develop new and healthy patterns of coping and relating when in conflict, to increase awareness of self and the other, and to draw closer. This can create a greater sense of security within oneself and between two people.
My work focuses on the “within” (you) and “between” (you two) to achieve this closeness and to heal from relationship ruptures.
It is possible to have greater harmony and deeper connection for you both. This is an open invitation to work alongside you in this journey.
“Every couple is unique. Each partner brings their own set of ingredients and together they make a soup.”